STRESS: YOUTH PROBLEMS

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I’m not pretty

“You can see for yourself. I’m not pretty. Girls are meant to be pretty. I’m not. I’m less of a girl than I might be. I stand by the mirror, and poke my face. Poke it this way and that. They say it’s only skin deep. It does not matter how deep or otherwise. If you have not got it, you have not got it.

‘Sometimes I go out on a blind date. It’s not often I am asked a second time.

‘No God. There can’t be a God. This came to me before I was born. Often wonder what mother was like as a girl. But dad loves her. You can see it in all that he does. Oh God! Why should I say “Oh God”, when there is no God?”

Look around. Who are the girls that are sought after? Pretty ones? Not really. Who then? It is those who have naturalness about them. Naturalness, then he feels at ease. A good feeling. It’s good being with her. He wants to see her again.

This naturalness. How does a girl acquire it? It’s the same thing again, let our mind learn to run quietly. And the whole pattern of life can change.

I’m small

“I’m big enough and strong. But small. Small down there. At school a boy, no bigger than me, but twice the size, boasted. I just felt awful.

‘That was a long time ago. But the thought of it is still with me. Recurring again and again. Makes me too timid to go out with a girl. Could I marry, ever? Went to a girl.

Prostitute. Told her my trouble. Gave her a look. She laughed. But it seemed she was laughing at me, not at my trouble.

‘Get fussed at work thinking of it. One of the girls talks to me. She is kind. Do you think she knows? Do women know these things?”

Life is insecure. We are insecure. Our manhood is insecure. This is a part of human existence. Some incident may trigger our insecurity. Doubt grows on doubt. Doubting messages confuse the brain. And the ground is prepared to grow the seeds of stress.

A philosophical understanding as to what it is all about does something to ease our mind, and allows better integration in our brain. But what counts is the simple experience of man and woman together. Simple and good.