OUR REACTION TO PAIN: THE DEPRESSIVE REACTION TO PAIN AND THE PHILOSOPHICAL REACTION TO PAIN
“I am like this because of what I have done.” Unlike the hostile reaction the patient does not openly express this idea unless we first gain his confidence, and then bring him to talk quietly about his inner thoughts.
I have already explained this mechanism, and we have discussed the way in which pain becomes associated with punishment and then with guilt.
Have you had feelings like this, that somehow the pain is connected with the thing that happened long ago? If you have, face it openly. Remember that we have all done things that are wrong. And remember that psychological forces within us tend to bring these things to our mind, even when we suffer from pain that is due to simple and natural causes. So accept your pain for what it is—a warning of some injury to your body—a warning that has gone wrong and become too severe and prolonged.
The Philosophical Reaction to Pain-”It can’t be helped. I shall get over it.” This is the philosophical reaction. When we are free from pain we can see that this is the only sensible and mature way to respond. But when the time comes, and the pain is upon us, it is not quite so easy.
The philosophical reaction to pain is the attitude of mind that we must aim for. When we have this we have a firm base, at is were, from which to launch our self-management of pain.
How do we get it? By all the influences, great and small, that lead us to maturity. And of these influences there is none greater than understanding. And by understanding I mean something that is not necessarily of words, or of logic or of religion. It is that quality that the distressed patient refers to when he rises and says, “Thank you. I understand better now,” when in fact I have said nothing to him about understanding. But he does understand better. It is shown in the way his distress has eased. This Is what I mean by understanding.
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